tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807797510077851525.post964130388931708136..comments2022-07-22T20:25:35.857-08:00Comments on Lox Populi: You Don't Have To Stay Home, But You Can't Come HereTiffany Borgeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03027802344101689023noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807797510077851525.post-40031370780209688962013-03-08T15:42:29.324-09:002013-03-08T15:42:29.324-09:00These thoughts are all insightful, thanks for comm...These thoughts are all insightful, thanks for commenting! And I should clarify that our parish experience has been overwhelmingly positive --- just the contrast of a few sad responses is all the more surprising when it happens there.Tiffany Borgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03027802344101689023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807797510077851525.post-79221764011403750122013-03-05T13:40:27.352-09:002013-03-05T13:40:27.352-09:00At my previous parish (I've moved) I was piani...At my previous parish (I've moved) I was pianist for the Hispanic Mass at our bi-lingual parish. There were many large families there, and the dynamic was even more complex (not just large families, large BROWN families--don't get me started). Fortunately, our priest was one of fourteen children and LOVED large families, and gave substantial discounts to parents with more than one child in CCD, etc. We had lots of family oriented programs, etc. It was super. While there was some grousing from the "white people," I never failed to do my part by pointing out that they, too, could have large families if they wanted.<br /><br />My youngest is now twenty and I find it irritating, to say the least, that many Catholics, once the last bastion of the large family, are rapidly taking second place to some Protestant denominations with sketchy theological positions. Yet it doesn't seem to occur to them that they have a choice.pioneercynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11697429852762048805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807797510077851525.post-38863203447282306662013-03-05T11:39:14.872-09:002013-03-05T11:39:14.872-09:00I agree with mdavid above. My grandmother had 14 ...I agree with mdavid above. My grandmother had 14 kids. But she was the last of the non-contracepting generation and for many years people, even in Church, have become accustomed to a lack of children distracting them from...well, what I can't say.<br /><br />That being said, do I attend the only parish that is truly kid friendly in all of the world? I read these accounts of people's experiences with mouth agape. Agape, I tell you! Pro-life! Children! Duh!Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807797510077851525.post-1843334621118070122013-03-04T06:12:10.400-09:002013-03-04T06:12:10.400-09:00Great post. One that desperately needed to be writ...Great post. One that desperately needed to be written. <br /><br />I've noticed that my typical local Catholic church is blithely unaware of how much more difficult it is to have children today than is was 50 years ago (little institutional support, carseat laws, insane medical costs, etc.) and not overly supportive even regarding church functions ($50 fees for religious ed or whatnot for kids come to mind).<br /><br />Agree with Allison too on the "nostalgic stranger" comment. My thoughts: the Catholic church has lots of old(ish) ladies who had the last large families during a time when that was going out of fashion...and thus have some 1960's anti-large-family vibes going on. They were the vanguard of this change, and every large family is a throwback to a "bad time".mdavidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807797510077851525.post-46729913156208581412013-03-03T14:03:55.174-09:002013-03-03T14:03:55.174-09:00I get more "kid love" from nostalgic str...I get more "kid love" from nostalgic strangers in coffee shops while treating the kids to strawberry steamers than from silver-haired grandmothers in church ("oh, you're 43, thank God you're almost done, huh?"). Lovely.<br /><br />And I love this post as well! Bravo. Can we come over for beans and rice?Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15243600795107249756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1807797510077851525.post-724863363728919322013-03-03T03:32:19.110-09:002013-03-03T03:32:19.110-09:00I love this post! We only have three, but I'v...I love this post! We only have three, but I've been amazed at how having one more has changed the reactions of people to our family when we're out. The kids might be on their best behavior, sitting perfectly quietly and there are still people who will turn (in a family restaurant) to glare. On the other hand we've had people rush over to remember happily when they had a new born and a two year old and a four year old and those moments are precious and wonderful! It's such a strange world we live in, when the mere presence of children, regardless of behavior, causes such reactions! And it makes me all the more thankful for those that don't have children that appreciate them! Thank you for writing this!Cammie Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.com